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Ask Confused Girl "When People Talk Trash"
"Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people."
- Eleanor Roosevelt
Katie from LA wrote me a message about a Co- worker who said some pretty nasty things about her to a business associate. Like Katie, we all have had people say mean things about us. We have also probably been guilty of speaking badly about others as well. My experience has shown me that how you talk and treat others is a direct reflection of how you feel about yourself. If you are talking badly about someone else, it's probably because you yourself are feeling insecure.
I think this is important to remember when you hear something negative someone said about you. Instead of taking it personally (I know that is really hard not to do because it feels very personal) just remember that it actually has nothing to do with you and everything to do with the way they feel about themselves. Secure happy people don't need to put down others to make themselves feel better. If you can muster up the strength, try to show kindness and compassion. I know it's hard but if you do, you will always come out the winner :)