I started to leave a comment on Laurie's latest post, but it occurred to me it might be more appropriate to put in a posting of my own. Especially as it really didn't have anything relevant to say in hers.
My best friend and I were walking along the local hike & bike trail one day a couple years ago. Somehow the conversation had turned to the topic of tanning salons. I asked my friend if he had ever been to one. Alan was walking a little behind me. He jogged a little to get in front of me, and laughing, said, "Mike, have you looked at me lately?"
Alan is black. I felt like such a fucking idiot.
When I got home, I told my wife, and she tried to assure me that I wasn't a moron, and said, "Don't feel so foolish. It just shows that you don't think of Alan in terms of color. You just see him as your friend. Period."
She's right, but I still felt pretty stupid.